There is also a story of a woman who can’t muster the courage to apply for the job of her dreams because her husband keeps telling her that she’s not qualified. Although he won’t admit it, he’s just feeling insecure about her working somewhere outside of the home, where she has cared for their children for the last 12 years.
Recently, Grand Rapids, Mich., was transformed into a vibrant art museum via an event called ArtPrize.
According to the event’s website, there were 1,582 artists and 164 venues in the city where their art could be viewed. The event, which started back in 2009, brings hundreds of thousands of visitors to Grand Rapids.
As an artist myself, I appreciate an occasion that causes people to gather together and allows creativity to be expressed. But what I love even more are the back-stories; what’s behind the paintings and sculptures besides clay, oils and other textiles.
One such story I read about involved a couple from South Carolina. They had to sell their car in order to pay to transport the husband’s piece of art here. That’s pretty major! Instead of getting angry, his wife got involved in the process.
It’s part of the package she says she signed up for when she married her husband. She claims her vocation is to promote her husband’s work and help everyone to see how great he is. It’s amazing what can happen when someone supports and believes in what you do.
Another artist, who has a few top-10 finishes, reports it’s not easy leaving his wife and kids behind in Chicago to spend weeks installing his art piece. He believes he wouldn’t be as successful in his pursuits without the support of his wife.
Isn’t that true for most marriages whether your job is creating a piece of art, sweeping a floor or changing a diaper? As a couple, if you don’t support each other in whatever tasks you are doing, it’s more difficult to get things done.
Take, for example, the couple who can’t seem to get past their differences and usually leave the house in the morning not speaking. He’s beginning a new venture with his brother who has not shown a tremendous amount of responsibility or reliability in the past. The couple is investing a large sum of money into this new business, and while her husband has a great amount of faith in his brother, his wife has her doubts. She cannot give her full support and, therefore, her husband struggles each day with feeling like he is constantly disappointing his wife.
There is also a story of a woman who can’t muster the courage to apply for the job of her dreams because her husband keeps telling her that she’s not qualified. Although he won’t admit it, he’s just feeling insecure about her working somewhere outside of the home, where she has cared for their children for the last 12 years. Without the support of her husband, whom she trusts more than anyone, she’s unsure whether she should even try.
What both couples need to do is talk about their situation and get past the insecurities and doubts and learn to trust one another. That’s the art of marriage, after all. Your spouse is the person you pledged to live your life with, in sickness and health, for richer or poorer, and for better or worse.
These words are easy to say but not always easy to live out when the rubber meets the road. Are you going to spin out in frustration, or are you going to turn the wheels of faith, avoid a collision and support your spouse on this adventure?
It’s much easier to drive a car when all the parts work together as they should, just like a marriage is much easier to live out when spouses work together to support one another.
Dan Seaborn is a non-denominational Christian evangelist and a published author of such books as "The Necessary Nine: How to Stay Happily Married for Life!" He is the founder of Winning at Home Inc., a ministry that focuses its attention on the relationships between a husband and wife and between parents and their children.