One of my relatives just graduated from college with $20,000 in student loan debt. Her boyfriend graduated, too, and he has over $100,000 in student loan debt. They want to get married, so sheís looking for a job. He wants to go to graduate school, and take out more loans to remain a full-time student. The idea of even more debt hanging over their heads really bothers her. Do you have any advice?
You donít throw away a great, potentially lifelong, relationship just because of debt. Things like laziness, dishonesty, and irresponsible behavior are deal breakers, though. Those are flaws that usually donít go away.
Iím glad sheís looking for a job, but her boyfriend needs to be working, too. Thereís no excuse for either of them being full-time students with more than $120,000 in combined student loan debt hanging over their heads. Lots of people hold down real jobs, save money, and further their educations on a part-time basis.
If she were my niece, I would encourage her to have an open and honest discussion with her boyfriend about their future, and how he plans on paying for graduate school. She also needs to be very real about her feelings in this situation. If, after that, he still wants to just borrow more money and not work outside of school, then she might have a difficult decision ahead.
However, if he realizes how damaging additional debt could be to their relationship, and heís willing to work while continuing his education, I think their future together looks much brighter.
You skipped one
My husband and I heard about your plan, but weíre not sure what to do next. We have between $400,000 and $500,000 in a 401(k) for retirement, but we donít have any other savings. Weíre both in our 40s, and the only debt we have is our house, so what should we do about Baby Steps 4 and 6?
Overall, you two have done a great job with your money. Letís go over the Baby Steps you mentioned. Baby Step 4 is putting 15 percent of your income into Roth IRAs and pre-tax retirement plans. Baby Step 6 is paying off your home early.
The thing that worries me is youíve completely skipped Baby Step 3, which is having 3 to 6 months of expenses in an emergency fund. This is money set aside strictly for emergencies. The problem right now is if you have a real emergency, you may have to cash out your 401(k). If you do that, youíre going to be penalized 10 percent, plus your tax rate. Thatís a real kick in the teeth just because you didnít do things in the right order.
My advice is to temporarily stop your 401(k) contributions until you get a fully funded emergency fund in place. By temporarily, I mean 6 to 8 months at most. That way, youíll be covered when life happens without having make a big dent in your retirement savings.
ó Dave Ramsey is CEO of Ramsey Solutions. He has authored seven best-selling books, including The Total Money Makeover. The Dave Ramsey Show is heard by more than 12 million listeners each week on 575 radio stations and multiple digital platforms. Follow Dave on the web at daveramsey.com and on Twitter at @DaveRamsey.
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