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Family dealing with twins again

Elizabeth Davies

Katie Groharing thought she was done with the twin thing.

Just a little more than a year after giving birth to a set of boy-and-girl twins, the Byron woman found out she was unexpectedly pregnant again. She left the twins and their older sister at home and headed to her doctor’s office for a the first routine ultrasound. She joked with her doctor as he fired up the machine.

“Make sure there’s not two this time,” she said with a grin.

There were.

“I was instantly in shock,” she said. “I didn’t say anything for the rest of the ultrasound. I cried to the nurse, ‘Five kids! I can’t do five kids!’ ”

But that’s exactly what this 29-year-old mother is doing. In mid-May, she gave birth to her second set of twins. The newborns, Carson and Macy, were welcomed home by 2-year-olds Carter and Madison and 5-year-old Hailey.

That means the Groharing family now has five children 5 or younger — and four of them are in diapers.

“Carter and Maddie are 2, they demand your attention,” Groharing said. “I’m very fearful (about having five small children). For about the first month, though, we’ll be set up as far as help goes. I’m just glad it’s summertime and we can get outside.”

No, there weren’t fertility drugs involved with any of the Groharing children, and no, the family isn’t planning to have any more. In fact, Groharing says she had already started to get rid of the baby items she collected over the years.

“My goal was three kids before I was 30,” Groharing said. “Now I have five at 29.”

The first time Groharing heard she was expecting twins, she was excited and thought it would be fun. The second time around, she knew exactly how much work twins would be and she felt bad that her oldest daughter would again lose out on one-on-one time with Mom.

“It was hard,” she said. “I was sympathetic with Hailey because I didn’t know how she would take it. She’s been robbed of individual time with me. But from the time we told her, she was jumping up and down, excited.”

This time around, Groharing said that at least she knows not to expect too much of herself as a mother. The Groharings are transplants here, and much of their family lives out of the area. So if the bottles aren’t given exactly three hours apart, she knows the babies will live. If they have to sit in a dirty diaper for a few extra minutes, she isn’t about to fret over it.

“I’m a bit of a control freak, but I’ve learned to let go and let people help,” she said. “I really learned with Carter and Maddie that if someone offered to do a bath or do a feeding, let them. That little extra time makes such a difference.”

A former first-grade teacher, Groharing says the organizational skills she used in the classroom have helped her maintain structure at home. And it doesn’t hurt that her husband of seven years, Jeremy, is quick to lend a hand.

“I can’t say enough about my husband,” she said. “When I start to get frustrated, he knows to step in. He will do laundry or cook dinner. We work really well as a team.”

Elizabeth Davies can be reached at edavies@rrstar.com.