Kent Bush: Adoption becomes legal after months of delays

Kent Bush

Oh, great! Now we are a month behind.

It is incredible how many similarities there are between your wife having a child and adopting a 4-year-old from Ethiopia.

The latest similarity came Tuesday morning when we got word that our adoption was officially legal. After months of delays, our paperwork finally went through.

The feelings that came over me Tuesday morning were very much like when my wife's delivery date for our son came.

After she had been pregnant for six or seven months, we had the nursery painted and baby bed built and we were ready.

But when the time came for her to give birth, I felt like we had nothing done.

On Monday, we talked about what we needed to do to get ready for our new son. We really didn't have anything we could do at that point.

Now our checklist is a mile long - and we couldn't be happier.

It has been a process that has taken almost two years already.

Phyllis Diller said, "By far the most common craving of pregnant women is not to be pregnant."

That was certainly true for my wife when she was pregnant and probably more so with this arduous adoption journey.

We didn't wait around for my wife's water to break when she was pregnant. The time was drawing near and her doctor had a holiday vacation planned with his family. So he decided to induce her and force our son out early just to be sure she didn't have to use a strange doctor for a sensitive procedure.

I wish we had been given that right in the adoption. We have been pregnant with anticipation for almost two years. We should write a book called "What to Expect when You're Adopting" as a companion piece to "What to Expect While You're Expecting."

We thought we knew a lot about the process when we started almost two years ago.

We had no idea.

But all of the paperwork, court proceedings, seemingly interminable delays are all behind us now.

We have a few more formalities to push through and then we will be booking airline tickets and preparing for our new addition.

It is exciting and terrifying. This child hasn't been in a car very often, much less in airports and airplanes for 36 hours. He has dealt with so much in his young life, part of me thinks he will just take it in stride.

But I was 40 the first time I did it and I got pretty darn grumpy during the trip.

Normally writing columns comes pretty easily for me. But, honestly, there are so many thoughts flooding my brain today that collecting some of them into a column has been a strain.

The first phase of our journey is almost complete. We can't begin to raise this little boy until he is home with us. That will be accomplished soon.

We are ready to begin the task of completing the mission God set before us.

Phase One tested our faith and pushed our prayer lives like they had never been pushed before.

Something tells me the next phase will, too.

Kent Bush is publisher of the Augusta (Kan.) Gazette.