The Guy’s Perspective: Learning to be more confident
A while back a man I work with asked me out. I was surprised since he’s recently separated. I had little expectations but decided to go out with him. Well, six months have gone by and things have been relatively good. Sure, there have been ups and downs. From time to time he withdraws and wants to spend time with his friends or alone; this bothers me and makes me feel insecure. He’s explained that he has a lot of pressure on him due to his pending divorce and his work responsibilities; he’s also stressing out about the fact that he’s turning 60 soon. I definitely understand some of what he’s going through but it’s his lack of communication that is difficult and make me feel insecure. I’ve expressed my concerns and fears to him and he’s said he wants to try and meet me halfway. I’m happy with this plan, but I hope he’ll follow through. I don’t want to feel alone or waste my time waiting for him to figure out what he wants. I also don’t want him to be turned off by my insecurity. Is there something I can do here to help him see I’m worth his attention?